Wounded Times
Kathie Costos
October 5, 2013
We have all heard stories about people using telekinesis as if it is a normal thing. Average people are amazed by their ability to use nothing more than their brain to do extraordinary things. One of the definitions of this is "Employed or used for a special service, function, or occasion" but what we don't seem to be able to be amazed by are the people with something going on in their minds that enables them to do extraordinary things for the sake of others.
They are average folks on the surface but there is something else going on in their heads few others have tapped into. Why? Because they just don't have the ability to know what they were put on this earth for.
I have talked to generations of veterans as well as people with many different professions. The happiest ones felt they never wanted to do anything else with their lives. I talked with psychologists, psychiatrists and even Neurosurgeons I had a temp jobs with trying to figure out what makes people decide what to do with their lives. They were fascinating. It is such a unique career choice that I had to know what drew them to it. Each one said they never thought of being anything else but a doctor while they were not sure what field to practice until someone in their family or someone they cared about suffered with an illness they wanted to understand.
Veterans are a bit more tricky to figure out since some of them were drafted. They didn't really want to go to war but once they were there, they discovered an ability within them they didn't know they had. Some wanted to serve since as far back as they could remember. Some of them were convinced to join after September 11 and left their family members shocked by the decision.
There are so many strange things average people do that puts them into a category of being extraordinary. What they need to do it is not injected into their minds, it is tapped into while they train to do what they have to do.
Researchers are trying to figure out what to do with the minds of veterans as if they are defective or something. They are studying rats with PTSD “We think that PTSD is kind of like getting stuck in an inappropriate response mode,” explained U.T. Health Science Center neuroscientist David Morilak, Ph.D."
If this is not the strangest thing you heard of, they are also getting injecting them with pot. "Israeli researchers say synthetic marijuana helped rats under stress recover sooner from emotional trauma. The study, published in the Journal of Neuroscience, suggests marijuana may help patients overcome life stresses that worsen reawakened trauma and other symptoms of post traumatic stress disorder." While some reporters think it is something new, this report came out in 2009.
The truth is, they can keep doing the same research over and over again but they will discover the same results since the basic design of the human mind has not changed any more than trauma has.
War? That has been around since cave men fought over who gets the best one. As a matter of fact crimes have been around since the first murder was recorded and that was when Cain killed his brother Able. Two brothers from the same parents doing two different things and being two totally different people.
The turmoil of war has been recorded in the Bible as well in the writings of David. Read his psalms and you will see exactly what the human soul goes through.
Psalm 144
New International Version (NIV)
Of David.
1 Praise be to the Lord my Rock, who trains my hands for war, my fingers for battle.
2 He is my loving God and my fortress, my stronghold and my deliverer, my shield, in whom I take refuge, who subdues peoples under me.
3 Lord, what are human beings that you care for them, mere mortals that you think of them? 4 They are like a breath; their days are like a fleeting shadow.
There are more you can read along with Dr. Jonathan Shay's Achilles in Vietnam. He didn't write it after reports came out on Afghanistan and Iraq veterans came home, but in 1995 after years of working with Vietnam veterans.
Shay wrote extensively about the "Moral Injury" for a very long time because he had his eyes open and listened. He has the ability few others use because he cares more about these extraordinary veterans.
Different things work for different veterans. The basic steps are to treat the whole veteran.
Their minds with whatever works for them from medications and talk therapy to working with the families so they understand what PTSD is. The problem with too many medications is they only numb the veteran. Don't expect their medications to be healing.
Their body to help them learn how to calm down again based on them with anything from Yoga to Martial Arts to something as simple as walking with calming music in their headphones.
The biggest one being missed is where PTSD truly lives. Take care of their souls. Not with a lot of Bible quotes or condemnations. They do enough of that to themselves.
They need to be loved so they are helped to love themselves again. Tap into what moves your emotions from your own experiences. You may not know what war is like but you do know what being alive is. Listen to them with your heart and then help guide them with true cognitive therapy. Getting them to relive it over and over again does not bring them peace or the ability to remember what they have forgotten.
Help them to see that what they did was because they wanted others they were with to live and while it meant they may have had to kill in order to save lives, their intent was not evil. They have to see where God was in all that happened in war because the horrors they saw made Him hard to see.
He was there when they were able to still care. Whenever they saw an act of kindness, mercy or held a buddy in their arms, or said a prayer, He was there. Goodness reminded within them and that is why they grieve. Had that been lost, they would not care or shed a tear or spend on sleepless night remembering.
Hero After War from Kathleen "Costos" DiCesare on Vimeo.
The last thing that you need to know is, they were given the calling to enter into the military and most didn't want to do anything else with their lives. They are very unhappy not being able to do it so help them be of service to others by finding something else to do with their lives.
The number one profession of veterans is law enforcement, then firefighters, emergency responders, medical fields and teaching. They are happiest when they are serving others. Tap into that. Help them figure out what they can do next that will use what they have the extraordinary ability to do. Even if they cannot work for a paycheck anymore, get them involved in veterans groups so they can be with other people like them. They are very happy helping other veterans and their communities.
Do not expect them to heal if you treat them like any other group because just as there are different levels of PTSD, there are different types depending on the cause of the trauma.
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