We're married, sleeping separately

We're married, sleeping separately
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By Diane Mapes

(LifeWire) -- It was the sock in the jaw that finally did it.


"We were lying in bed spooning when he had an elbow spasm and punched me in the jaw," says Barbara, a 55-year-old graphic designer from Lansing, Michigan, who asked that her last name not be used.

"I was already so sleep-deprived from his twitching and snoring that I was psychotic. After that, I just told him, 'It's all over, honey.'"

Barbara's husband of 22 years, who asked not to be identified, moved into another bedroom. They're among many loving couples who -- because of snoring, restless legs, opposite schedules or other nocturnal difficulties -- have decided to sleep apart.
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Don't be so shocked. We've been married for 24 years this month and have not spent one night in bed together in all those years. Sometimes what is considered "normal" is not when you are in a marriage most find abnormal. For us, with PTSD and the rest that comes with it, it works best for us to sleep apart. Believe me, sleeping together does not make or break a marriage. It's the real connection two people have for each other that really matters.