Notice to emailers

I'm not your therapist!

I'm really sorry to all the veterans and their family members emailing me seeking help with your relationships because I know there is not enough help out there, but that is not my role in all of this. I am mainly researching whatever is printed on PTSD to provide greater understanding of what it is. The more people learn about PTSD, the easier it will be to remove the stigma of it, remove the barriers of seeking help and hopefully moving Congress past talking about addressing the problem so they actually do something about it. The more time I spend doing one on one, the less time I have to research.

I will continue to answer your questions and provide you with knowledge of what is normal and part of PTSD, but I cannot be used as a tool between you and your spouse. I can no longer go on acting as a surrogate therapist or marriage councilor. There are several message groups available on line for when you want to reach out to others who will understand.

I am only one person that cannot keep doing this 12 hours a day seven days a week while holding down a job and taking care of my own family. My health is paying the price. I posted that I am now on blood pressure medicine for the first time in my life and I'm not able to sleep. Emails keep me up too late at night and then I cannot fall asleep. There has to be a line that cannot be crossed over no matter how much more I would like to do. I simply cannot go on doing what is asked of me.

My book is on this blog. All you have to do is open it in Adobe and read it to understand what they go through as well as what a spouse goes through. It covers 18 years of the hardest time in our life together. I should not have to keep repeating what is in the book. That's why it's on line for free. Chapters are titled so that you can skip over parts you feel as if you do not need to read.

My web page at www.namguardianangel.org is on line and has five pages of information. Most of you never go there.

My videos are on line and posted on this blog. Watch them. If you still do not understand or have more questions after, then please email me. I'll be happy to answer any remaining questions but please understand the days of using me as a private therapist are over. I made it clear to you that I am not a therapist, not a psychologist or a psychiatrist. I am just one of you with 25 experience in all of this. Please stop asking me to solve all your problems.
Kathie Costos
Namguardianangel@aol.com